Ever run out of things to talk about? Maybe it’s because we work and serve together, but more often than not, Cory and I find ourselves gravitating toward conversations that center around ’church stuff,’ i.e. upcoming events or meetings, things going on in this family or in that family, even venting our ministry frustrations and heartaches. It’s so reassuring to be on the same page in our ministries, but our communication can easily become focused on external things, and we may miss out on growing in relational intimacy in the process.
If you’ve ever felt that way, or if you just need some ideas to get to know each other on a deeper level, here are some questions to get you talking! Select a new question to answer each day (or as often as you can). It may seem awkward at first, but keep at it.
Ideally, try to set aside enough time to discuss each question in depth rather than hurrying to complete them all. As you talk, listen carefully as well. Do not retreat if the discussion gets uncomfortable. Instead, share what is really important, especially feelings, and try not to get defensive. ‘Winning’ is not the goal; understanding is.
Cory and Amy Brand serve together at First Baptist Church in Corsicana, where Cory is the Minister of Discipleship and Pastoral Care and Amy is the Children’s Minister. They have three (mostly) wonderful children, Lance (22), Brent (18), and Abby (15). Cory and Amy love doing life and ministry together! Check out our new ‘Marriage in a Fishbowl’ website, and like our Facebook page for information about our marriage ministry and upcoming retreat for ministers and their spouses!